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Most institutional sexual abuse cases settle before they ever reach a courtroom. Settlements benefit survivors by offering quicker compensation and not having to undergo the emotional toll of a lengthy trial.
That being said, survivors may still need to appear in court for hearings, motions, or, should the institution that failed to protect the survivor not offer a fair settlement, a jury trial. Appearing in court for a moving violation is overwhelming enough, let alone having to appear in a legal setting for a case involving a non-consensual traumatic experience. This is why having a plan in place can make the experience less overwhelming. This guide offers simple, practical steps to prepare for and navigate the courtroom.
Download: Courtroom Preparation Checklist
Print this quick list so you can arrive prepared and supported on your court day.
Download PDFBefore the Court Date
- Confirm the date, time, and location with your attorney
- Arrange transportation and, if possible, have a trusted friend go with you
- Pack a small bag with comfort items (water bottle, tissues, stress ball, notebook)
- Set aside your outfit the night before (choose something that makes you feel steady and confident)
- Review with your attorney what to expect (who will be present, what questions you might face)
Day of Court
- Eat a light, grounding meal before you go
- Leave early to avoid rushing and unexpected delays
- Check in with your attorney when you arrive
- Identify where bathrooms, quiet spaces, and exits are located in the courthouse
- Use grounding techniques if anxiety spikes (slow breaths, 5-4-3-2-1 senses exercise)
During Testimony or Hearing
- Remember: you can pause and ask for clarification if you don’t understand a question
- Focus on your breathing between questions
- If you feel overwhelmed, ask your attorney or the judge for a brief break
- Keep your grounding item (like a small stone or bracelet) in hand if allowed
- Remind yourself: being in court does not define your worth
After Court
- Schedule something supportive for after like a therapy session, coffee with a friend, or simply quiet time
- Journal or talk through the experience with a safe person
- Follow up with your attorney about next steps
- Celebrate your courage, no matter the outcome